The art of kissing is probably the single most important part of the whole Kama Sutra, modern or ancient. So many women have expressed, “If I could only teach him how to kiss.”
Kissing is the gateway, the pathway, the initiation of sexual bliss. Kissing can be done in many different ways, and the Kama Sutra actually teaches various forms of kissing. It’s remarkable that there are actually what you could call “kissing positions” in the Kama Sutra that you can learn to do. They promote a sense of connecting with your partner, starting that real arousal process and actually synchronizing a lot of aspects of our bodies.
For example, when we kiss we look eye to eye. Lips to lips, eyes to eyes, breath to breath. Those are very important elements of connecting, of harmonizing, and of turning on. Let’s consider some of the different forms of kissing.
For example, this is not one of my favorite forms of kissing, but it’s often how we begin kissing, especially with someone we don’t know: Dry lips to dry lips. Not a very erotic kind of kissing – but it is a form of kissing. Moving up the stairs, so to speak, from one level to the next and getting a little more intimate we get to the male kissing her lower lips with his lips. Think about putting your lips around her lower lip and grabbing on to it. It’s very, very sensual. For some people it’s a little ticklish but it’s arousing be- cause it evokes a different set of sensations.
The idea is the notion of pleasuring the whole of the lips and the mouth. Instead of putting your lips around her lower lip, next try putting your tongue on her lower lip. Lick her lower lip, and as you do, you embrace her. This is a way of sending a signal that you’re ready.
Moving up another step, try tilting your heads, changing the angles. Press your slightly open lips against hers. Focus on the sensations you create – you will feel the energy in the room change. Using that particular kissing position sends a message that feels electric. You feel the warmth of each other’s breath and these
For another level, use your tongue to probe her mouth, building on all the other stages. You’re building stage to stage and as you put your tongue inside to probe, you’re sending a signal for intimate sexuality.
The next level up: kiss her upper lick, and then suck on it, licking and probing. Couples are surprised at this and often ask, “Why would we do that?” Believe it or not, according to the ancient teachings of the Kama Sutra, there is a nerve connection from the upper lip of a woman to her clitoris. So I encourage you to try that one!
For some people, kissing is how they keep the electricity flowing. A woman should try to surrender and look at it as a sensual adventure, and not just kissing. Take your mind out of thinking. Get out of the intellectualizing of the experience, and allow yourself to focus purely on the sensations. It can give you the “turning key” that you need so that you can feel the pleasure of his kiss.