First, you want to set your bedroom up properly. Maybe you want to use incense. Or light candles. You can burn a ceremonial candle that symbolizes sharing the sacredness of exploring the Kama Sutra together.
You might want to have sensual objects around, like a soft, smooth, or fuzzy fabric that gives a feeling of the senses opening up when you touch it. There are many objects you can use to prepare your environment, like a small statue of the Indian god Genesha, who looks like an elephant. In ancient teachings, the elephant was one of the revered and sacred animals. So was the cow, and so was the crow. This particular god Ganesha, the elephant, is prayed to or worshipped for being the remover of obstacles.
Imagine you’ve been arguing with your lover during the day, and when night rolls around you want to be amorous. You go to the statue in your room and address it with a statement like, “Ganesha, please get the anger out of the way!” Or if you’re tired you can ask it, “Please remove my fatigue.”
This is just one idea of one type of object that you can use. There are many ways of preparing your environment. Having pretty things at hand, like a beautifully painted fan, is a way of evoking your sense of sight. The beauty of the fan opens up your sense of sight… you’re preparing a sensual environment through your sense of sight.
You can use pieces of nature, like small shells or smooth pebbles in your environment. Flowers…driftwood…anything that evokes nature can set a wonderful atmosphere.
Even something as simple as a pretty tablecloth adds an ornate touch that sends the message you have spent time and intention in preparing your environment.
In this special place, tell your lover you honor them… as your friend… as your soulmate. Tell him he means everything to you, and let him receive that. Tell her she makes you feel good, and you love her.
Stroke a soft piece of velvet and really feel it… smell the earthy aroma of a ritual “union” candle…gaze on your items from nature, or your statue of Ganesha. Thank him for removing all obstacles from your relationship. Let your environment work for you. Let it calm you and arouse you.