I’d like you all to face your partner as much as you can, and I’d like you to put your hands in front of your partner. And I’d like you to touch, and then, once you feel your partner’s skin, I want you to concentrate on sending and receiving energy, hand-to-hand, and feel that energy back and forth.
Then I want you to pull your hands apart about four inches, until you don’t feel the electricity anymore, and feel it running without touching. Is it magnetic? Is it heat? What are you feeling?
WOMAN: It feels magnetic.
PATTI: Anyone else? What are you feeling?
MAN: I feel kind of a breeze going on…
PATTI: A breeze!
WOMAN: Almost a warmth.
PATTI: A warmth! So good! Everyone is feeling something. You know that is so special to me as your guide today, because it shows me how attuned you all are to each other, and that shows me that when you get to practice what you’re learning today, you’re going to have a wonderful time!
So I want you to play with one other idea and that is – pull back from your partner.
I want each of you to put your hands together to form what we call an Energy Ball. And I can feel my energy here. This is how big my energy ball is from my own hands. So each of us has our own zone within ourselves. I want you to feel that. For me it feels like heat, and there’s actually almost a real ball there, made of air or water. Can you feel that? That’s what you’re putting out just here!
You’re not even aroused sexually, imagine when that starts cooking! When that awakens, your energy is going to get huge, so this is the beginning of connecting with your energy. And then, try to pass that ball to your partner and see if you can feel that. So play with your energy right now, with your two hands passing the ball. See if you can connect with that!
MAN: Where’d my ball go?
WOMAN: Did it leave?
PATTI: Put your balls away now!
WOMAN: Aw, we were having so much fun!
PATTI: It is fun isn’t it?
MAN: We just can’t resist.
PATTI: See, that’s the feeling. It’s a feeling of divine play – of playfulness. And if you can see your partner as god and goddess, can you do that? Can you look at each other and see each other as the Divine?
As the Divine Beloved, and sharing this sacred energy that’s you, that’s the special-ness of it. This energy is me – all me, and when I share it with you, we merge and blend into a new “energy being.” That’s exciting! And imagine taking that into the bedroom.
Tantra sexuality is slow. It’s different; it’s not quick, heavy breathing. It’s long, relaxed breath. And it’s riding those waves, because you’re going to feel waves and currents, just like you did in the energy exchange, or the energy ball.
It’s quiet, isn’t it? It’s slow, it’s soft, it doesn’t have sharp edges. There’s not a rapid feeling inside it.
That’s how your sexuality is going to start moving. It’s going to be slow. There are going to be moments of stillness where you don’t do anything except send and receive energy.
That’s very different from what we normally think of as “having sex.” We think of moving and doing things instead of creating the connection and letting the energy take us. Emotions… what do you think is going to happen to you emotionally?
WOMAN: Wow, it’s a sense of moving into a deeper place… even ecstasy… that maybe you haven’t even fully experienced up to this point.
PATTI: Beautiful, beautiful. Are any emotions coming up now for anybody?
WOMAN: For me, just a sense of incredible peace…
WOMAN: Especially as you were talking about the waves… It’s very peaceful…
PATTI: Yes it is very peaceful!
WOMAN: Love…
PATTI: Love… Yes. There’s a lot of love flowing in the room already. Our hearts are opening as we enter into this new way of thinking and feeling and being, and it’s not necessarily erotic love – you know there are various kinds of love.
There’s agapé love, which is an unconditional love for everything and everyone.
There’s erotic love, which is the love from Eros, which is a sexual, desirous kind of love.
And then there is divine love, and that love has no body.
Our mind can be used to free the body and the spirit, and that’s part of the Tantric path – using our mind and our attitudes and opening our emotions and allowing ourselves to be on that pathway to open fully to each other.
I’m going to just dance around the senses, so that when we talk about the senses here, you, when you go back to do your home assignments, can play with your senses in evoking and awakening them, so that you get the energy running through the senses.
So, when we think of the senses, we think of the eyes first. For example, look at the beauty of this lingam. And look how the light dances and plays on it. That’s a visual, isn’t it? That’s exciting, that’s awakening, through our eyes. There may be things that we see in our environment that are things of beauty, or divine symbols, for example that awaken us through sight.