Dr. Patti Britton is a former President of AASECT (American
Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), a Certified Sexuality Educator, a Clinical Sexologist and a Sex Coach helping thousands of couples enhance sexuality through her books, workshops, DVDs and website drpattibritton.com.
The following text is taken from a workshop held by Dr. Patti with three couples interested in bringing Tantra into their lovemaking.
PATTI: Welcome everybody, I‘m so honored and so pleased to see you all here today… And welcome to: Modern Tantra, an Erotic Workshop for Couples. Is everybody ready to move into a dimension with me that is going to take us on a journey together? It is meditative, spiritual, emotional, physical. It may even be transformational. We’re going to approach it from the same way that I’m going to teach you how to approach Tantra itself. So we’re going to begin, just the way I hope you’ll begin when you, yourselves have a Tantric act.
I’d like to begin it with a meditation and a ritual, because ceremony, because ritual, because our attitudes, our emotions, where our mind is, and even our spirit itself, need to get activated and put into alignment. So I’d like to invite us all to become quiet inside. Stillness is such a part of the Tantric journey. And it’s a part of the journey we’re all about to take today.
I’d like to focus on the symbols of Male and Female. We have a candle of the Male, and a candle of the Female, and what I’d like to do is begin this journey together by awakening the flame of Male and Female. In awakening the Male and Female in these candles, may we all awaken the Divine Male and the Divine Female that lives within each of us, and may this journey we’re about to take together allow us to connect with that Divine Force.
Because Tantra is so much about the uniting of the Male and the Female energies, and it’s so much about intertwining within ourselves, and between us and our partner – that inner Male and Female, and the universe’s Male and Female principles. And on this journey, I ask that we’re all guided to be from our highest selves, that we open our mind, our emotions, our bodies, our senses and our spirit, for this ecstatic, blissful journey we’re all about to take.
Tantra does not necessarily have to be sexual. It’s a path of understanding about energy. And we’re going to be learning about how you discover, within yourself and your body, the sacred temple of containing energy, how you can harness and access the energies that live within your own body and work with those energies. Move those energies up to higher and higher levels of vibration and
actually transmit that energy and share it with your beloved partner.
Tantra is actually over 5000 years old! It wouldn’t exist today if it didn’t work, so there’s something very precious and ancient about this teaching, and there’s something that we need to honor, which is that it comes from India; It comes from Nepal; it comes from Tibet, and it was only about a decade ago that we in the United States even learned about Tantra.
But one thing that’s so important to focus on is that there is no one right way to do Tantra, so how do we bring in some of that ancient feeling? That’s why ritual is so important. That’s why lighting candles that emanate Male and Female as the Divine Male and the Divine Female and learning how to access, harness and merge those energies is what we’re all about today.
It’s the merging that makes Tantra such an ecstatic pathway, a pathway of healing for some people, a pathway of connecting with your partner, a pathway of harmonizing, of union, of joy, of bliss… of love.